If you are human, conflict is inevitable. When I work with couples, often – conflict is a part of their dynamic. Where conflict exists, clutter, indecision and inaction may often show up as signs.
There are many ways to deal with conflict, and each person has preferences depending on a variety of factors: personality type, communication styles and skills, family of origin behaviors and personal awareness are a few. Some people tend to avoid conflict at all costs, choosing to flee or repress emotions to avoid a confrontation. Others become aggressive and can damage relationships in their need to release their own tension. Still, others tend to accommodate, and while making everyone feel better, they fail to get their own needs met.
Conflict in and of itself is not “bad”. It is a natural part of human interaction and experience. What can make it burdensome, is how it’s managed.
And, as with all things, managing conflict appropriately depends on your situation, timing, and the capabilities and awareness of the individuals involved.
There are times when confrontation is best when postponed until emotions calm down. At other times a more assertive approach works best… hitting an issue head-on and tackling it directly may be the best approach for all those involved. And sometimes the best decision is to compromise, accommodate, or even apologize. Ultimately, in any optimist’s mind, there’s the win-win, collaborative approach to resolving conflict.
Even though it’s difficult at times, the savvy interpersonal strategists learn how to flex their approach and adapt their responses to the unique circumstances of the situation. When conflict is addressed effectively, the end result will not damage relationships and those involved will not feel as though they’ve given up too much to reach a solution.
There is one thing for sure… unless you handle conflict and address it, it doesn’t go away easily, and the issue will tend to claw it’s way back in some way.
Got clutter? Take a look at how conflict is handled between the two of you. Are clutter and inactivity a response to stagnant energy? Perhaps it’s time to get clear and handle it head-on.
- For a step by step guide to clearing clutter – download my “Dimensions Workbook”
- For guidelines on when to toss items out and how long to keep papers – download “Time To Toss It!”
- Need to get your home and family organized? download “Get Organized to Keep Your Family Sane” E-book and Audio Course