Balance has become the dreamy, spa-like oasis fantasy term for most women these days:
“If I could only feel a sense of balance in my life…”
“I’m too busy…When will I have the time to______…”
“I just feel so ‘off-balance'”
I address this subject often in my workshops – and I ask people to stand up and feel a sense of balance. Then I ask them to do various physical things that make maintaining their balance more difficult. Then I ask them what they notice.
Invariably, people are aware that – as the challenge increases, their sense of focus must increase, as well as the fact that they have to work ‘harder’ by making constant physical accommodations to maintain balance. This exercise works very well to make the concept of balance a physical reality. However – I wanted to share a new discovery I had during our closing keynote speech at the recent NAPO Conference.
Dan Thurmon was our ending keynote speaker. He is the author of two books, a renowned speaker, and a recognized expert in delivering peak performances – on stage and in the workplace. As president of Motivation Works, Inc., he has worked with hundreds of clients and delivered thousands of presentations worldwide. Dan’s philosophy can be summarized by the title of his book, Off Balance On Purpose. He believes that we will never achieve “perfect balance” and should, instead, learn to embrace uncertainty and initiate positive changes that lead to growth. Also, we should go beyond the pursuit of “success” and enhance our life experiences and professional endeavors with purposeful, positive contributions. As an entertainer, acrobat and juggler – he explains the two keys to being able to do everything you want to do is to create strong systems and repeatable processes, so that you only need to handle one thing at a time. Of course, he shares this while riding a 12 foot unicycle and juggling 5 huge knives… expertly demonstrating how it all works.
[Tweet “Being off balance, on purpose can work to your benefit. #mompreneur”]
His philosophy is that we should stop striving for balance as a state of being… it is impossible! He shared that we should use balance as a tool to manage all the challenges life throws at us. Therefore, we are intentionally off-balance, on purpose to be able to accommodate whatever life throws at us. Our goal is then, to establish the basics, create repeatable patterns and habits that allow us to keep moving forward, and only handle things when we need to. This fully supports my Sane Spaces Dimensions of Space, Systems, Self and Support. How healthy are your dimensions?
- Space – Click to take the ‘Space Sanity Quiz’ to see if your space is the cause for insanity.
- Systems – Click to take the ‘Systems Sanity Quiz’ to see if your systems (or lack of them) is the cause for insanity.
- Self – Click to take the ‘Self Sanity Quiz’ to see if you are your own worst enemy and are causing your own insanity.
- Support – Click here to take the ‘Support Sanity Quiz’ to see if a lack of support is the cause for insanity.
To live your life off-balance on purpose this week:
- Look at where you need the security and sanity of the basics – which of the sanity dimensions do you need to address to create repeatable patterns and habits so you only have to handle things when you need to.
- Choose not to indulge instant gratification at the expense of living your life on purpose.
- Use the information to be responsible for your decisions and take on only what you can handle based upon what you value.
Your choices will empower you to feel energized, directed and valued.
I’d love to hear about your successes, challenges and tips on how you stay off balance on purpose. Do you have any tips to share? Reach out and let me know!