Looking for support for your busy mom life can be frustrating! AND, if you have a business of your own, you know it’s even more tricky to keep everything going and get your tasks completed on time! So many people need more support than they have! This article will provide you with 10 ways to get the type of support you need to get everything done and still have time for you!
Ever since moving to Pennsylvania, we have an annual tradition of trekking to Hershey Park in Hershey, PA. Not only is it a wonderful, delightful park – it really has some VERY awesome roller coasters. And, I have a family of roller coaster aficionados!
As is our tradition – we arrive in the evening, check into our hotel, and then enjoy the very awesome Preview Pass that Hershey offers their guests – access to the park and all the rides from 7:30 pm to close. This is a great time to go to the park because families with young children are tired and leaving for the day, and the lines are dying down a bit.Well, it dawned on me as we were on our pilgrimage this year that roller coasters are a GREAT metaphor of mompreneurs.
WHY? Because without question – most of my female clients (and especially those who are moms) struggle MOST with asking for and setting up the support structures they need. It is the single biggest hurdle to cross when launching, juggling and eventually being able to effectively create profitable businesses and fulfilling careers!
10 Sure Fire Ways To Get The Support You Need
Look at the structure of support necessary to make a roller coaster work! They really are an engineering marvel. Think of your business in the same way. Your business results can be compared to the coaster, sailing on the tracks – able to navigate twists, turns and even loops at high speeds. Your clients are the riders on the coaster – and you are both the visioneer who creates the business and the engineer who designs the systems necessary for your success!
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Here are 10 sure fire ways to get the support you need to be successful.
1. Decide: Do You Want A Business or JHobby
Now, I may push some buttons here – and I truly don’t mean to trigger you, but let’s be honest… One of the HUGEST contributing factors to the success of home-based, mom-supported direct sales businesses (you know the Mary Kay, Pampered Chef, Tastefully Simple, Lia Sophia direct sales business models) is the fact that the “business” of those businesses is pretty much all set up, financed, paid for, engineered, marketed, managed, supported and run solely by the mother ship. In other words, the reason they work so well for so many moms is because the folks who decide to run those types of independent direct sales businesses are really just warm, wonderful, engaging and networked sales people for the brand they decide to support. I consider these businesses to be Jhobbies (why – because one can align with this type of business like a JOB – or a HOBBY depending on what she puts into it.)
But – the facade is that it is a “business”. The fact is, whether you choose to sell or not – that business will still survive without you. That said – I feel it is a super reliable and terrific option for the at home mom who may be testing the ‘working for myself waters” and wish to generate some instant income right out of the box…
Compare this option to the solo-preneur, launch-your-own-thing model… So, when you launch your own business whether it’s based on products or services, IT IS ALL ON YOU! If you don’t want to (or can’t) afford the time, investment, tools, resources and equipment you need to set up a successful and legitimate business, you really should sit down with yourself. It’s time to have a heart to heart talk (with yourself) about the dreaded and oft avoided reality: Do I want a business or a jhobby? If you want to avoid the business end, I say go for the jhobby – there is no faster (or less risky) way to generate easy income than to make a minimal investment with a large branded, fully-equipped business operation and sell their stuff. Of course, choose a company and product you love and USE with ease and happiness – or you’ll probably lose that dreamy, steamy, I’m-gonna-make-a-ton-o-cash-with-this-stuff-feeling pdq!
2. Recognize Your Magnificence
When you know your sweet spot – and where you are absolutely fabulous it is a wonderful thing. Most mompreneurs (and women in general) have been told they have to be good at everything. (It’s really a survival skill we’ve learned along life’s way). Well, I’m here to tell you that although I’m sure you are fabulous… you are NOT magnificent at everything. Focus on your fabulousity – and while doing it, be woman enough to admit where you have gaps. By truly recognizing and embracing your true gifts, you can focus MORE on bringing those gifts to the world! Then – of course, get help from others with your not-so-magnificent gap areas.
3. Legitimize Your Business
Again, this is typical of mompreneurs and women in general. To avoid going out big – or being too committed, many of us ‘back into’ our businesses. We set up our ‘office’ on top of our dining room (or kitchen) table – in the center of everything and expect that we’ll be successful. NOT. You have my permission to legitimize your business. I like to use the metaphor of a pizza restaurant for comparison purposes. Would you open a pizza restaurant without an oven, a sink, coolers, or a kitchen? So many mompreneurs run ‘illegitimate’ businesses for years (yeah – YEARS) before they come out of hiding, and begin to invest in the tools, equipment and the resources they need to succeed.
4. PAY For The Tools, Equipment And Help You Need
So many mompreneurs run their businesses like their first lemonade stand… Picture the rickety, dinged up card table set up on the sidewalk, handmade signs, huge cups for a quarter… Although an awesome slice of Americana – I’m pretty sure most parents didn’t require their kids to pay for their cost of materials prior to launching. So, instead of borrowing supplies and resources from your mom’s kitchen to run your business, set yourself up for success. Write out a budget and be realistic about what you need to succeed. If you need a computer and printer that work… BUY THEM. If you need a headset… BUY IT.
5. Get Help From People Who Are Better Than You
I’m a fan of creating a robust, motley team of people who are wonderfully juicy, different, exciting and themselves. I ALWAYS look for people who are better, smarter, more talented, more detailed and more capable in the areas where I stink – to cover my gaps and create bridges.
6. BEWARE of Shadow Support
Some of my clients have what I refer to as “shadow” support. They’ve done it to themselves… they have people in place (employees, assistants, contractors, childcare) but they are what I refer to as ‘shadow people’. In other words, they are showing up – but they’re not fully engaged, not fully in… resentful, tired, and relatively unpleasant about their presence and commitment to do the job you’ve asked of them. Take a look around you and assess your supporters. Are they really there FOR YOU? Do they really want to SUPPORT your business and the lifestyle that you are building toward. OR –
Do you have Shadow Support?? Are they there because they are ‘doing you a favor’ or worse… are you doing them the favor of taking care of their egos by employing them or making them feel needed? The difference between real support and shadow support can be compared to pushing a coaster car up a hill, vs. strapping yourself in and riding one that is soaring over the tracks at top speeds….
Take an inventory of your support people. Are they truly supporting you? OR Be honest… are YOU supporting them? Have you offered them a position or job because of your pity? Did they need a job? Are you feeling sorry for them? Are you feeling your need to take care of people? REALLY – Check yourself here. Sometimes this one area is the lynch pin to your success or failure.
7. Organize Your Space
Many of you know that the first version of SaneSpaces.com was helping people to get organized. As I worked with people, I realized that organizing is really just one step in the direction of making life work. I am thrilled to say that SaneSpaces.com has morphed over time as I’ve realized that getting organized is just a means to an end. An organized person is generally more able to do more of what she wants to do with ease because she knows what she has, has what she needs and can find things when she needs them. The challenge for most mompreneurs is that many of us diminish the necessity of this particular activity and it’s impact on our success. Without your space working for you, one of the key structures of support will be broken. Your roller coaster will need to shut down for critical maintenance often – or heaven forbid – have a critical failure.
Organize your space to best suit you. Keep systems easy to maintain. Avoid distractions. To find out what organizing styles, tips, products and approaches work for you take the Time & Space Style Inventory and begin to employ the flow steps that support your dominant Space and Time Style Preferences. Create touch and go systems that you can jump in and out of and still know what you need to do when you come back. Work with a pro to create files, e-organizing tools and reminder/scheduling systems that work for you and your style. (If you need guidance, check out my Get Organized Self-Paced Workbook that walks you through exactly how to do what you need to do to get organized. or contact me for one on one support- I’m a guru with this stuff! 😉
9. Manage Yourself To Get The Most Out Of The Time You Have
In my group coaching course AWAKE – Manage Your Time to Love Your Life – I spend a huge amount of time shifting the accepted paradigm that time can be managed… NOPE – it’s really YOU who has to manage YOU within the 24 hours/day, 7 days/week, 52 weeks/year format of what we all define as our given time. I work with mompreneurs all the time on simply accepting their reality of how much time they actually have to themselves. So many of us think we have MUCH MORE time available to us than we do – and as such, we set ourselves up for failure from the start. We set our expectations WAY TOO HIGH for the amount of time and energy we have to devote to things… The first step is to accept how much time you actually have – then figure out your way forward and how to fit the puzzle pieces together while juggling all the parts!
10. Maintain Your Sanity Dimensions
The image I regularly use with coaching clients is an iceberg. The iceberg works well because 90% of an iceberg is submerged and therefore not visible on the surface… The hidden parts of the iceberg represent the underlying causes for stress, breakdown, disorganization, chaos and clutter. I have categorized these causes into what I refer to as the Sanity Dimensions. When assessing situations with clients, the areas we explore are your Space(s), your Systems, your Self (habits and behaviors) and your Support layers that are in place to help you do what you need to do. Each of these areas is critical for you to not only understand, but to regularly check and maintain. To check the health of your Sanity Dimensions – you can always take my free quiz located on the right side of my web site.
Which Means Take Care of You
As always… a happier, healthier you – is a much better, easier, more successful, more magnificent, more confident and no doubt sexier YOU. This one really should be first, but I believe in saving the best for last… Hey – Stop making excuses for yourself and reasons you are not meeting your own needs. Until you take care of you – you’ll never truly meet the needs of your family, your partner, your clients…. Without self care, all you’ll have is a collapsed pile of cards on the table. Take care of you right now.
How do you feel on a scale of 1-10 right this second. Do a systems check – body aches/pains, eyes, head, shallow breathing… etc.
Give yourself a score on a scale of 1-10.
NOW Try This
- Close your eyes
- Breathe in deeply 5 times
- Open your eyes
- Get up
- Reach out and stretch, bend over to stretch your legs, shake your arms out,
- Jump up and down a few times
- Walk around – Get yourself a drink of water
- Come back and give yourself a score…
- Higher? or Lower score than before??
Taking care of you should be first on the list, but I save it till last because I truly want you to do this little physical exercise for yourself.
- Take regular breaks.
- Do more of what you love.
- Stop working for awhile.
- Connect with your friends and family (or people who make you feel alive, invigorated and well!)
- Play with playdough with the kids.
- Fix a healthy snack with real food (not from a package!)
- Do more of taking care of you. The time invested will ALWAYS be worth the payoff on the other end!
- Support yourself so you can ride your roller coaster and LOVE your family, your business and the life you live!
If you’d like to discuss getting the support you need to run your business more effectively (or launch your business) – contact me and schedule a complimentary Discovery Call with me to see if I can help.
So, I hope this article provided you with some ideas and direction when it comes to getting the support you need to get everything done and still have time for you! What did we miss? Please add your suggestions, comments and ideas below in the comments section!