Our thoughts become our reality.
What we think about most is what we manifest in our lives.
Self Confidence is one of the major areas that many mompreneurs struggle.
- Do you struggle with your self-confidence?
- Do you constantly fight that voice in your head that stops you from taking risks?
- Does lack of confidence stop you from meeting your goals and fulfilling your dreams?
- Do you find it difficult to meet new people and establish connections because you’re shy?
Did you know that sometimes, self-esteem and self-confidence can shift simply by changing your thoughts?
One of the things that held me back from pursuing my dreams for many years was fear of failure. I was afraid of looking like I didn’t know what I was doing and afraid to look like a fool. A lack of self-confidence stood in the way of my success, and I needed to overcome that fear to move forward in my business.
It’s something every human being faces at some point. And the thing to understand is that feeling a lack of confidence often shows up as being stuck in a rut, feeling held back, and most often victimized by circumstance. People who lack confidence stay where they are, but often build up resentment toward others who are more successful. This creates a somewhat endless negative cycle of victimization that can be at best difficult to manage, and at worst stifling to one’s ability to obtain their own dreams for success.
But, aren’t some people just born with more self-confidence?
The question of nature vs. nurture always comes up when discussing self-confidence. Some people are naturally extroverted, so this natural style may lend itself to one’s self-confidence. More extroverted individuals typically have more ‘opportunities’ to get social feedback from birth as they are consistently putting themselves out there and facing either acceptance or rejection. But there are billions of introverted people who are self-confident as well. So, the nature vs. nurture argument although potentially impactful is not the bottom line where self-confidence is concerned. In fact, there has been much study to reveal that self-confidence is OFTEN tied to activities that you have more control over than you think.
The secret behind self-confidence…
The fundamental difference between those who display more confidence than others is that people who are perceived as more confident have faced their own discomfort and fears – and done things despite their fears – MORE OFTEN than others who have chosen not to face their fears.
Face your fears and watch confidence unfold
Without really thinking of it in those terms, that’s what I’ve been doing over the years as a small business owner. And as a result, it is exactly what has helped me to push through my fears and finally pursue my dreams.
Fear still shows up…. every time I face something new.
But now I know that I can break through that wall of fear and come out on the other side. I just need to see the fear for what it is… a smokescreen that is just there to keep me in place… away from taking the next risk. But risk often results in reward. And, in this case, the reward is a heightened feeling of success.
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What will you focus your thoughts on today?
What positive thought or image can you focus on right now as you get ready to start your day? Describe it here, then take a few relaxing moments to let it really sink in.
Please comment and share your confidence challenges and successes below!