- Do you struggle with your self confidence?
- Do you constantly fight that voice in your head that stops you from taking risks?
- Does lack of confidence stop you from meeting your goals and fulfilling your dreams?
- Do you find it difficult to meet new people and establish connections because you’re shy?
One of the things that held me back from pursuing my dreams for many years was fear of failure. I was afraid of looking like I didn’t know what I was doing and afraid to look like a fool. A lack of self-confidence stood in the way of my success, and I needed to overcome that fear to move forward in my business.
It’s something every human being faces at some point. And the thing to understand is that a feeling a lack of confidence often shows up as being stuck in a rut, feeling held back, and most often victimized by circumstance. People who lack confidence stay where they are, but often build up resentment toward others who are more successful. This creates a somewhat endless negative cycle of victimization that can be at best difficult to manage, and at worst stifling to one’s ability to obtain their own dreams for success.
But, aren’t some people just born with more self-confidence?
The question of nature vs. nurture always comes up when discussing self-confidence. Some people are naturally extroverted, so this natural style may lend itself to one’s self-confidence. More extroverted individuals typically have more ‘opportunities’ to get social feedback from birth as they are consistently putting themselves out there and facing either acceptance or rejection. But there are billions of introverted people who are self-confident as well. So, the nature vs. nurture argument although potentially impactful is not the bottom line where self-confidence is concerned. In fact, there has been much study to reveal that self-confidence is OFTEN tied to activities that you have more control over than you think.
The secret behind self-confidence…
The fundamental difference between those who display more confidence than others is that
people who are perceived as more confident have faced their own discomfort and fears
– and done things despite their fears –
MORE OFTEN than others who have chosen not to face their fears.
Daily Strategies To Build Your Confidence and Self-Esteem
Face your fears and watch confidence unfold
Without really thinking of it in those terms, that’s what I’ve been doing over the years as a small business owner. And as a result, it is exactly what has helped me to push through my fears and finally pursue my dreams.
Fear still shows up…. every time I face something new.
But now I know that I can break through that wall of fear and come out on the other side. I just need to see the fear for what it is… a smokescreen that is just there to keep me in place… away from taking the next risk. But risk often results in reward. And, in this case, the reward is a heightened feeling of success.
Success fuels further success and builds self-confidence.
I’ve seen it happen time and time again… for my clients, for my children, for my husband, for friends and family members.
When you learn to ride a bike or ice skate:
- you do not trust yourself or your abilities…
- you’ve never done it before…
- you are uncomfortable…
- you haven’t experienced balance…
- you may be afraid to fall and hurt yourself…
- and you likely want to avoid the ‘shame’ of looking like a fool…
And therein lies the key ingredient, and the thing you have absolute control over:
You always have the ability to choose.
Do you STOP yourself?
or
Do you JUST DO IT… DESPITE all your reasons and fears?
You can choose how you feel, how you think, what you do, and what you will not do.
Just know that when you do new things:
- You will likely face some obstacles…
- You will likely need to try things several times before you master them…
- You may confront some internal noise and beliefs that have been in place for a long time…
- Odds are, you will probably fail… several times even…
But after a few tries, you learn.
- You use muscles you’ve never used before…
- And you get stronger…
- You step into the challenge…
- And somewhere along the way, it may even become fun!
Confidence comes from practicing things that are challenging.
With practice, things that were once impossible, become second nature so that you no longer even think about what you are doing or how you do them.
In other words, you learn to trust yourself by doing, and magically, your ability improves along with your level of self-confidence.
The more you do things you fear or doubt, the more you will learn about your strengths.
Just imagine, seeing yourself…
Confidence builds when you face challenges and succeed.
- Walk into the party and being the one everyone is waiting to see
- Introduced to a stranger and feeling completely comfortable in your own skin
- Saying “YES” to all the things you’ve been putting off for fear of . . .
- Being ‘that person’ whom you’ve always looked to and admired as ‘the confident one’
- Setting your own personal confidence goals and achieving them privately without the fear of shame or failure
- Gaining more self-confidence through exercises designed to support you and nudge you forward safely, step-by-step.
You can absolutely improve your self-confidence and self-esteem
The key differentiator is a willingness to face your internal fears, and do things you’re uncomfortable about despite of your fears!
SO, the question is… how often do you feel discomfort and fear and instead of running from it, do something to face it and overcome that fear?
That is why I’ve created a safe place to experiment with your fears.
- Full-color workbook
- Online training modules
- Structured journaling prompts encourage self-reflection
- Private group access for support, coaching, and feedback
- Worksheets to provide structure and success tracking to see how your confidence builds over time
- Motivational quotes by confidence gurus
The way to more self-confidence is to challenge yourself, step out of your comfort zone, build trust in your abilities by overcoming those obstacles, and learn to focus on gratitude and positivity.
You will begin to learn from your challenges and obstacles and enjoy when you accomplish tasks.
There are no shortcuts or magic pills to confidence, but this self-paced weekly course will provide the personal and private challenges you need to do all those things. Confidence will build as you take baby steps toward improvement. You will make changes over time. And soon, what was once impossible, will be easy!
The key differentiator is a willingness to face your internal fears, and do things you’re uncomfortable about, despite of your fears!
SO, the question is… how often do you feel discomfort and fear and instead of running from it, do something to face it and overcome that fear?
Build your skills daily and increase your self-confidence!
- Enhance your efficacy and self-confidence
- Set your own personal goals and achieve them
- Gain insights into your personal barriers and blocks
- Identify and release your inner critic day by day, week by week
- Confront challenges weekly and overcome your fears incrementally
- Release ‘old stories’ that no longer serve who you want to be and become
- Try on new behaviors and build new skills as you become more comfortable
- Gain more self-confidence through exercises designed to nudge you forward step-by-step, safely.
Be the person you know yourself to be.
The Confidence Course provides what you need to overcome shyness, and build your confidence incrementally!
PS. This course is self-paced and is administered in a private membership forum. Access to others in the course is by choice. Although recommended to participate, you may choose to opt-out of the group support.