I know you…
You are committed to making a difference, having a great family, spending true quality time and building up your children, and having a business that works… and is profitable, all in a day’s work.
It’s TOTALLY OKAY to cry sometimes – and actually it’s EXACTLY what you NEED to do – to clear the way so you can HEAR what you need to hear to get you moving in the right path for you.
If you’re struggling, be easy on yourself. You’re in the process of taking MANY steps in the right direction… all at the same time.
Remember, when a seed grows… the first thing to come up is the dirt.
You just need to get to the bottom of all the muck so you can make decisions from a core place and be strong there and shine your light for others.
You can’t be a lighthouse if your constantly moving… distracted, chaotic, messy, unhappy, and strung out.
And just so you know… I cried on and off for months as I was making my way through all the weeds for myself… And still do even now!
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I even sent a hate letter to one of my first coaches who was merely trying to help me.
A. VENEMOUS. NASTY. AWFUL. STINGY. WHINEY. HATE LETTER….
It is mortifying when I think of it.
All of my anger, frustration and disappointment in myself and inability to turn a ‘salary’ out of my incredible hard work… I tidily wrapped all of it up in one angry email and shot it straight at her….
For pushing me…
For simply stating my words back to me…
For holding me accountable…
For being a stand for my integrity and what I said I wanted to do…
WHAT I PAID HER TO DO….
I hit the wall.
I was scared.
I had self-doubt.
I was unsure.
So, if you’re here… Now what? What do you do?
Do your homework. (Some things never change as we grow…)
Review your life skills, strengths and characteristics.
Highlight all the stuff you LOVE about you…
I mean everything you have ever done,
every experience you’ve had… good and bad… fun and dull…
from the moment you can remember that has brought you to this point.
Welcome your life experience…
Learn and For-Give others… Like: Thank you for giving me the opportunity to know what I don’t like
Listen to yourself.
Figure out what you DON’T Want FIRST…
DROP WHAT YOU DON’T WANT as soon as you possibly can.
Then figure out what you DO want… and list all those things in utter abandon. List until you can’t list any more. Post your list and keep adding until you get really clear about what you DO want.
Prioritize your endless list (As, Bs and Cs) so you have a guide post.
Work on the most essential three elements each day… and complete them.
Identify the clients you want to work with MOST – in every way you can… With every one of your senses.
How do you want to FEEL when you work?
HOW do you want others to treat you and feel about you?
Write it all down.
And read it every day.
Edit it when you are moved to do so.
When I did this exercise, I knew I wanted to help passionate, fiery hot – awesome moms…
Because I knew that what they wanted and what they were doing MATTERED… especially to them and their children.
I wanted to matter.
I wanted what I did for others to matter.
There are so many moms who are completely content to not run a business…
A mom running her own business is wired up differently.
She’s passionate, connected, edgy, high energy, sometimes difficult, un-ladylike, and aggressive.
She’s sometimes unfiltered, tired, and scattered.
But most of all – she’s deeply CARING, LOVING, SOUL-FULL, ENGAGED, EXCITED, COMMITTED, SEXY, and MAGNIFICENT…
And not afraid to stake her own claim, carry her own torch, and lead others.
I DID NOT HAVE THE CLIENT BASE I HAVE TODAY WHEN I STARTED THIS JOURNEY…
I deeply cared about the people I worked with. I wanted to make a difference for them, but realized that it is not what made my soul sing.
I had to let it go and learning to let it go took some time.
When I redesigned, I went back into my soul…
Drank and partied and carried on…
Blamed my husband for not supporting me – the right way.
I had many temper tantrums and late night discussions awakening my husband crying that I wanted to matter!
I threatened myself to go ‘back to work’ – but – I was being pulled in another direction….
Nearly my entire adult life had been defined by my education, salary, and my results of goals that others held me to…
and of course… that little milestone… becoming and being a MOM.
Every time I thought about money – I panicked.
I stared down the shameful spiral of I’m not good enough…
I wanted to quit some times.
I was play dough.
I knew I had more to give and wanted to so desperately…
I wanted my salary back damnit.
YET I wanted to “be there” for my kids… A beautiful and unending spiritual contract that I had wanted MY WHOLE LIFE… and had been generously, lovingly entrusted with…
It was hard.
I fought it.
It took time.
I AM IMPATIENT.
But with each small step into the new wilderness things got clearer.
I was creating it from the inside out –
and I manifested YOU…
You didn’t exist for me, until I dreamed you up and called you to work with me…
You need to dream up what you want…
It will show up when you are ready.
It’s okay – We’re in this together.
I have place I go when I’m feeling crappy. http://youtu.be/cITNveY-kig
I cried every time I watched it… WHY… Because Danielle LaPorte is RIGHT… It’s true…
Sometimes you just need someone to light the way.
Some days are better than others.
Today is wonderful…
You’ll get through it…
Here’s to your sanity.